Live Your Truth Without Apology – From Resisting to Receiving

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successFeeling clear, confident, standing in your own power, enjoying giving of your special gifts to the world. This is our birthright.

Each one of us is born with special gifts that no one else has. I believe that part of life’s game is to determine what they are and to share them. We are also born with a unique path to follow. Yet the journey to discovering and then fulfilling our destiny is filled with many twists and turns along the way.

It’s not as if we are taught basic skills in school to easily discover what our unique gifts are and how to offer them to help others. It’s a rare individual who had guidance of this type early in life.

The majority of us, as we grew up, were taught how to fit in, rather than to express our uniqueness.  Dependent upon what type of family and culture you grew up in, you learned a set of rules to live by.  I came into this life, conscious and aware, and with an inexhaustible thirst to express myself in a myriad of creative ways. Yet in my family the culture was “children are to be seen and not heard”.  Going against the “invisible rules” would get my mouth washed out with soap. It’s no wonder I have ended up specializing in healing sound and voice therapy…

Regardless of whether you towed the line or rebelled, you made decisions about reality based upon your experience. These decisions we make early in life get programmed into our subconscious and run on automatic to help make our lives run more smoothly.

Smoothly, that is…until years later, when we’ve learned our lessons and are ready to move on to a higher level. Those earlier decisions have become encrusted habit. Old habits die hard. They form resistance. This is why, when you are clearly resolved to develop a new skill, heal old wounds, move into a new relationship, or speak your truth – you may find all kinds of blocks coming up in your way. Resolve transforms into resistance, seemingly overnight.

At this point, many people work harder, push and exert their way to a solution, only to exhaust themselves along the way.  We’ve learned this masculine way of operating all too well. Others lose faith in themselves altogether, abandoning their path, stopped by secret, nameless fears lying dormant underneath the surface.

This is when it’s easy to lose faith and trust in yourself. You might start caring too much what other people think and  follow their advice even more than your own.  The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

The feminine way of self nurturing and compassion can go a long way to melt the resistance and open a way for more authentic expression to emerge. When you listen to yourself, you are standing in your power. You become support for yourself.

If there were a fairy godmother handing you a magic wand, what would you ask her to teach you that would help you to stand in your power and express your truth without apology?

I would ask to learn to remember inside always, that all is well, I am enough, no matter what is happening around me.  I have been practicing being a fairy godmother to myself – staying open and compassionate with myself, especially in those periods of uncertainty, when the caterpillar is decomposing, not yet emerged from the cocoon to spread it’s wings and fly.  Simple potent applications of wordless voice and rhythm bypasses the intellect and provides a sense of inner serenity.  Quelled from the need to fill in the empty void opens the space to receive the desired results.  Almost always, the results are so much better than what I could have imagined…The biggest satisfaction comes from the confidence and power gained from having met my own resistance with love and compassion.

What about you? Where does your self trust fail you? 

What would it take for you to trust yourself more?

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